She took to her interactive blog to discuss how her life has has changed for the better and made reference to her marriage. She wrote:
''It is
my desire to reach out and inspire you especially if you feel
vulnerable and in need of a change. I hope to inspire you to believe in
yourself no matter the circumstances. I want to help you recreate your
life going forward, so you can live beautifully. I have been through
this journey of rediscovery and nothing is as beautiful as realising
one’s uniqueness as I have done. Life is a precious however, your life
can go through different seasons: winter, spring, summer or autumn. Life
can hit you with financial loss, disappointments, death of a loved one,
a broken relationship, loss of a job, a divorce, being falsely accused
or being a victim of crime. These can shatter you to pieces but you can
do something about it.
Life is
a gift from God and you deserve to be happy irrespective of your age,
race, gender, background or financial situation. I urge you to
appreciate the gift you are, you are precious and valuable. Never lose
sight of who you are; begin to create new visions and dreams for your
life. Let nothing stop you from growing every day. My story is not
one of a bed of roses, far from it but I had a choice to either beat
myself over the regret of tolerating abuse for so long or put a stop to
the abuse and recreate my life for the best. My journey was not in vain.
I can now help others realise that their situation does not define
them.
In
order to move on with life, I have come to realise that nothing is
permanent. Your problem is not permanent; you can do something to change
it by ensuring you do not allow the situation or the person make your
life miserable. Pain is a fact of life, it is inevitable but suffering
is optional. You can do something to change the pain by over looking
every obstacle, take control as a force of nature to grow and expand. Do
what is necessary now to use the gift God has given you to unleash your
purpose.
My
message to all is simple: you have value therefore discover your
potential. Do not allow anybody destroy you or rob you of living a
joyful life. Your life is not wasted; you have just started a different
phase of life. God will show you how to use your testimony to help
others and restore their lives to exuberance. Please join me to
encourage and inspire others. You have a story to tell, you can
contribute and participate in the dialogues here. Let us all learn from
one another’s experience and reach others with the gift of love and
kindness. Share your experience by emailing me or making a comment.
Celebrate your uniqueness because there is only one of you''.
In another post titled ''There is always something to be thankful for''
she says '' One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” Michael J. Fox
After
an abusive relationship or marriage, there is no doubt you will have
feelings of deep sorrow for a long time, which could go on for possibly
months or even years. These feelings will come and go periodically as
you reflect and you remember things from the past that would make you
feel distressed.
You may
be inundated with disappointments, which may lead you to voice your
regrets, especially coming across certain people or a person. Several
Instances could cause flashbacks and bring back thoughts of regret such
as; signing a contract, making a decision, joining an organization,
trusting people, buying a property. Also your mind would question why
you hung unto a dead marriage or stayed in an abusive relationship.
Don't stay in that condition for too long. Regrets will only aggravate
your feelings.
Forget
about the things you cannot change and focus on being thankful. Don’t
put your life on hold, rather plan what you would like to accomplish in
one week, one month, three months and in a year’s time.
See the
silver lining in the cloud. You may struggle to find or observe that
flicker of light emerging out of the darkness but give yourself time to
recover from that shocking hopeless experience, then thank God for
making you strong enough to walk away from the abuse. The situation
might be tough, with burdensome chains, but you will get better. You can
rise up to the challenge and improve yourself. Something good will come
out of your situation.
You
will become a stronger and more productive person when you learn from
your experience and use your knowledge to improve yourself for new
prospects ahead. “I want my life to bring comfort to others and I am on
that journey now thankfully”. Every ending is really a new beginning for
beautiful opportunities ahead.''
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